Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Missing Your Loved One at This Time of Year

During the holiday season is a fun time for most people. Those however who have lost someone very close to them in the past few years may not think so. It is a hard time as we remember what that loved one like to do over Thanksgiving and Christmas Days.

Our middle son Brendon loved Christmas. (He's in the stripy shirt). Thanksgiving was a holiday he never really enjoyed as the food was not to his liking. He spent most of the Thanksgivings he can actually remember in the hospital or unable to eat. I guess that was only two really. For me not being born in America, it kind of still has not sunk in but I am trying to celebrate the freedom that we have to live here and worship the Lord freely. I am conveying that to the boys. I think my husband does realize this too.

All I can say is 3 years and 1 month today a precious part of my heart disappeared to heaven and is missed every day, and more during these 'happy' times of year. Reach out and touch someone physically or with a phone call this week who has lost a precious loved one, or even those who have lost a job or home. They need to know they are important. Don't try to tell them everything will be okay, as sometimes it is not. Sometimes it takes a very long time for life to turn around and be okay.

Thanks for hearing my heart today. Brendon we miss you and we love you darling. Your smile will live in my heart forever.


Susan Evans said...

(((((Hugs))))) Julie. I'm so sorry for the sorrow. So glad we will see him again when this miserable life is over.

my3sonz said...

I so appreciate your posts like this Julie. I want to know how you are feeling and what you are thinking. It helps to know how to pray for you. When you have never had to grieve the loss of someone so incredibly close to you, it's hard to know what to do or to be a good friend. I know I am never sure if bringing it up helps or hurts. If you ever feel up to sharing a post about that, I would love to hear your advice and perspective. I want to be a help to others in this kind of pain, but really don't know how best to do that. And just so you know...I LOVE to hear about Brendon. Any stories or memories you want to share is precious to me! Love you honey...